A simple framework with huge payoff

Ah, yes, self-care. The term that started as perhaps a well-intentioned motivator to take care of yourself and has hit a high as the backlash of the super perfectionistic social media mommy. Now, self-care can bring up the shame that you're not doing enough for yourself.

This is how all things can be interpreted, I suppose, depending on our point of view. There's always a dark side to something that might be positive for some.

But, when you or your early adolescent find yourself running ragged, stressed, or snappy you know it's no time for shame. It's simply time to take care of yourself.

If you don't like the term self-care, I suggest a word change, or a re-frame. My favorite word is:

Nourish

I like the way it looks and sounds. And, it doesn't scream at me like I'm doing something wrong.

It means I do things for myself that might be healthy, relaxing, and supportive. And, also things that might be because it feels good, a healthy escape, or just because it's what I want.

In today's podcast, I'll share 3 simple self-care tips for you and your early adolescent that have a big payoff. These tips allow you to become aware of which side of self-care you're on.

Take a look at today's talking points

#1: Tell the truth & understand the "why" behind any of your nourishing practices.

• Are you using "self-care" as a way to avoid or numb out?

• Make space within yourself to tell the truth and always be having a conversation about the intentions behind your actions.

• Build trust with yourself because you honor how you're feeling, knowing it's for your highest good.

• You will build self-love and respect and model the same for your middle schooler.

#2: Focus on the inner as much as the outer

• No amount of pedicures, haircuts, fancy exfoliators or deodorant will ever replace processing what's going on within your mind.

• Model and practice all aspects of wellness (inner and outer) and model that for your middle schooler.

• Cultivate holistic wellness that speaks to you and your adolescent.

#3: Stay consistent to avoid burnout

• In order to experience holistic wellness over the years, you have to stick to it for life.

• It's not about being perfect, it's about being consistent.

• Challenge yourself to do something that nourishes you for 30 days - and have your middle schooler do the same!

Examples of my practices, my tween's, and the kids and parents I work with:

• Listening to favorite podcasts weekly

• Steamy shower with essential oil

• Some creative project - for the simple act of being creative - not just for the product

• Daily reset in the mountains

• Eating what feels good and healthy

• Fresh flowers for the house

• Friday night spa night

• Weekly therapy

• A favorite cup of tea next to a favorite candle

• Weekly contact with treasured friends

• Hugging your pets

• Meditation

• Breaking a sweat multiple times a week

These self-care practices have huge mental, physical and spiritual payoff. From gratitude to contentment, to better blood pressure, less anxiety, and stronger relationships. The benefits of developing practices to nourish your inner and outer self are quite simply -- priceless. And, there's no better time to start than now.

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